Benedicta Okoli
Compassionate counsellor for relationship and life challenges
About Benedicta
Benedicta Okoli is a counsellor based in the United Kingdom with nine years of experience and a BACP credential. She focuses on relationship and life coaching alongside psychotherapy, and speaks English and Igbo. Benedicta aims to offer calm, practical support when people face hard life moments.
Her practice addresses a wide range of concerns including addiction, anxiety, depression, trauma and abuse, grief, self-esteem, bipolar mood challenges, and stress. She also helps with relationship and intimacy problems, parenting strain, eating and sleeping difficulties, career questions, and ADHD-related concerns.
Background and approach
Additional focuses include issues such as abandonment, adoption and foster care, attachment and neurodiversity, chronic illness, codependency and body image. Benedicta describes her style as warm and respectful. She shapes sessions around each person’s needs and uses conversational, goal-oriented work alongside emotional exploration.
Her background in relationship coaching influences how she approaches relationship difficulties and commitment concerns. In sessions she draws on a mix of approaches to suit the person in front of her. That can include mindfulness-based acceptance work, talking through patterns that stem from early attachment, practical cognitive techniques, and skills for emotional regulation.
She aims to keep things straightforward and doable. Starting therapy can feel daunting and Benedicta offers steady support while people take that first step. She works collaboratively to set clear aims and adjusts plans as progress is made.
The focus is on helping people manage present life challenges and build more stable routines and relationships.
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How Benedicta works
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Sessions & fees
Approaches that guide online work
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy focuses on noticing thoughts and feelings without being ruled by them, and then taking steps that align with personal values; it can help with anxiety, avoidance and finding direction. Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how early relationships shape current patterns and aims to build healthier ways of connecting and relating to others. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy breaks problems into thoughts, feelings and behaviours and uses practical exercises to shift unhelpful patterns and improve day-to-day functioning.Finding the right approach is part of the work. Benedicta will discuss different methods with each person and together they will choose what feels most useful. That collaborative conversation helps shape goals and the tasks used between sessions.
Online sessions are offered by video calls, phone sessions, live chat or text-based messaging to give flexibility. Video is useful for face-to-face conversation and visual cues, phone calls suit shorter check-ins or lower bandwidth, live chat works for quick reflective moments, and messaging can support ongoing coaching and coping between meetings. These options make it easier to fit therapy around family, work and travel while still working on the issues that matter.
| Session length | Typically 50 minutes |
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| Client ages | Adults, 18 and over |
| Fees | Subscription via BetterHelp, cancel anytime |
| Insurance | Not billed directly |
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Areas of focus
What this therapist works with
Most often
- Addictions
- Relationship issues
- Family conflicts
Also listed
- Abandonment
- ADHD
- Adoption and foster care
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Anger management
- Antisocial personality
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Avoidant personality
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Bipolar disorder
- Blended family issues
- Body image
- Cancer
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Coaching
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Control issues
- Coping with life changes
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Dependent personality
- Depression
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Eating and food-related issues
- Eating disorders
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Fertility issues
- Forgiveness
- Gender dysphoria
- Grief
- Guilt and shame
- HIV / AIDS
- Hoarding
- Hospice and end-of-life counselling
- Immigration issues
- Impulsivity
- Infidelity
- Intellectual disability
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- LGBT
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Narcissism
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Paranoia
- Parenting issues
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Post-traumatic stress
- Postpartum depression
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Sleeping disorders
- Smoking / vaping cessation
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Stress, Anxiety
- Trauma and abuse
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centred Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing
- Narrative Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Somatic Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Internal Family Systems
- Experience
- 9 years
- Registered with
- BACP
- Languages
- English, Igbo
