Robert Paynter
Practical therapy with skills and support
About Robert
Robert Paynter is a counsellor who blends practical talking therapy with skills-based work. He uses approaches such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and person-centred methods to help people manage stress, anxiety, addiction and low self-esteem. Robert brings ten years of professional experience and the NCPS credential to his practice and speaks English, Afrikaans and Portuguese.
He focuses on everyday struggles that get in the way of a decent life. That includes depression, anger, relationship difficulties, career worries and coping with major life changes.
Background and approach
He also works with issues such as chronic illness, caregiver stress, body image and diverse sexual cultures including BDSM and kink. Robert aims for straightforward sessions that balance listening with practical tools. He often uses CBT to identify unhelpful thoughts and actions, and draws on acceptance-based ideas to help people live in line with their values.
He adapts his style to each person instead of following a rigid plan. Clients can expect conversations about what matters most to them, short-term strategies to ease distress, and coaching around next steps. He pays attention to attachment patterns and communication problems to strengthen relationships and self-understanding.
Robert has worked across different countries and cultures, which informs a flexible, respectful approach. He encourages small, steady steps and helps people build skills they can use after sessions end.
What Robert works with
How Robert works
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Sessions & fees
How therapeutic approaches work online
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, or ACT, focuses on values and actions rather than only changing thoughts. It helps people notice difficult feelings and still do things that matter, which can be useful for anxiety, stress and life transitions.Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, CBT, looks at the links between thoughts, feelings and actions. It offers practical techniques to reduce unhelpful thinking and to build healthier habits for issues like depression, anxiety and addictions.
Attachment-Based Therapy highlights patterns in close relationships and how early bonds shape current reactions. It can help people who struggle with abandonment fears, communication problems or repeated relationship difficulties.
Choosing an approach is a collaborative process. The counsellor will talk through your goals and preferences and suggest methods that fit your situation. That plan can change as you work together and learn what helps most.
Online sessions can take place by video, phone, live chat or text messaging, offering flexibility for different needs. Video is good for face-to-face conversation and visual cues, phone calls work well when bandwidth is limited, and messaging suits shorter check-ins or when written reflection helps. These options make it easier to fit therapy around work, travel or caregiving commitments and to keep momentum between sessions.
| Session length | Typically 50 minutes |
|---|---|
| Client ages | Adults, 18 and over |
| Fees | Subscription via BetterHelp, cancel anytime |
| Insurance | Not billed directly |
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Areas of focus
What this therapist works with
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Also listed
- Abandonment
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Anger management
- Attachment issues
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Body image
- Cancer
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Coaching
- Codependency
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Control issues
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Eating and food-related issues
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- HIV / AIDS
- Hoarding
- Immigration issues
- Impulsivity
- Infidelity
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Narcissism
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Post-traumatic stress
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Relationship issues
- Self esteem
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Smoking / vaping cessation
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centred Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
- Jungian Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing
- Narrative Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Somatic Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Systemic Therapy
- Experience
- 10 years
- Registered with
- NCPS
- Languages
- English, Afrikaans, Portuguese
