Toby "Benjamin" Stimpson
Integrative counsellor for stress and intimacy issues
About Toby
Toby "Benjamin" Stimpson uses an integrative approach to counselling. They combine evidence-based techniques to help people untangle patterns that cause anxiety, stress, or problems with intimacy. Toby has six years of clinical experience and over 1,400 hours of direct client work.
They practise in the United Kingdom and offer sessions in English. Toby helps people identify how early experiences and current relationships affect self-esteem and communication. Sessions often focus on recognising unhelpful patterns and trying small, practical changes.
Background and approach
Conversations are straightforward and paced to what each person can manage. They have worked in both Canada and the UK, which has given experience with immigration-related concerns and cultural transition. Toby also supports people dealing with gender dysphoria, HIV and AIDS related matters, and issues connected to kink and alternative sex culture.
These areas are approached without judgement and with practical problem solving. Therapy can include short coaching-style tasks as well as deeper reflective work on family of origin, attachment, guilt and shame. Toby draws on multiple modalities to match the work to the client.
The focus is on clear goals, manageable steps and checking in about progress. Toby welcomes adult clients aged 18 and over. Sessions are offered by video call, phone, live chat or text-based messaging.
Costs vary with location and a subscription model is used that can be cancelled at any time.
What Toby works with
Sessions & fees
How Toby adapts evidence-based approaches online
Many clients benefit from techniques that focus on relationships and patterns. Attachment-informed work looks at how early bonds influence current connections and helps people make different choices in relationships. It is useful for issues like intimacy difficulties, codependency and family of origin concerns.Skills-based approaches that target anxiety and stress teach practical strategies for managing thoughts and bodily reactions. These techniques are straightforward and can be practised between sessions to reduce overwhelm and build confidence.
Toby treats finding the right approach as a shared task. They will talk with each person about goals, try methods that fit those goals and adjust the plan as needed. The process is collaborative, with regular check-ins about what is or isn't helping.
Online work is offered by video call, phone, live chat or text-based messaging to suit different routines. Video is useful for face-to-face conversation and reading visual cues, while phone sessions need less bandwidth and can fit a break at work. Live chat and messaging suit brief check-ins, written reflection or when someone prefers not to be on camera. These options make it easier to fit therapy around daily life and practical constraints.
| Session length | Typically 50 minutes |
|---|---|
| Client ages | Adults, 18 and over |
| Fees | Subscription via BetterHelp, cancel anytime |
| Insurance | Not billed directly |
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Areas of focus
What this therapist works with
Also listed
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Attachment issues
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Blended family issues
- Body image
- Coaching
- Codependency
- Communication problems
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Forgiveness
- Gender dysphoria
- Guilt and shame
- HIV / AIDS
- Immigration issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Narcissism
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Post-traumatic stress
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Self esteem
- Self-love
- Sexuality
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Workplace issues
- Experience
- 6 years
- Registered with
- BACP, NCPS
- Languages
- English
