Gordon Birnie
Relationship and sex counselling with clear focus
About Gordon
Gordon Birnie helps people who are dealing with stress, anxiety, low mood and relationship or intimacy concerns. He supports people facing sexual difficulties, LGBT and gender identity questions, and those coping with trauma, shame or issues with self-esteem. He also offers help for career questions and major life changes.
Gordon uses a straightforward, down-to-earth style. He aims to make sessions feel non-judgemental so people can talk honestly about sexual concerns, kink or non-traditional relationship arrangements.
Background and approach
Conversations focus on what is happening now and on practical ways to make things feel easier. His practice draws on client-centred work that puts the person’s experience at the heart of the session. He also uses Imago Relationship Therapy ideas to look at patterns in close relationships and Solution-Focused Therapy to set short-term goals and actions.
These methods are used to guide practical steps rather than lengthy theory talks. Gordon has three years of professional experience and holds NCPS as a credential. He works with people who have process or sex-related addiction, sexual dysfunction, attachment or communication difficulties, and multicultural or identity-related concerns.
He welcomes frank discussion of BDSM, kink and alternative sex cultures. Sessions are offered in English and are delivered online by video, phone, live chat or text messaging. If someone wants to begin, they choose the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and then arrange sessions to suit their schedule.
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Sessions & fees
Approaches that shape online therapy
Client-Centred Therapy focuses on the person’s experience and priorities. The counsellor listens with empathy and helps the client find their own solutions, which suits emotional concerns like anxiety, depression and self-esteem issues.Imago Relationship Therapy looks at patterns between people in close relationships. It helps identify recurring communication problems and rebuild connection, which can be useful for intimacy concerns, attachment issues and relationship cycles.
Solution-Focused Therapy aims for short, practical steps. Sessions set small, achievable goals so progress can be noticed between meetings; this works well for coping with life changes and targeted issues such as career decisions or behaviour change.
Finding the right approach is part of the process. The therapist discusses needs, goals and preferences and will suggest which methods to try. This is a collaborative decision and can be reviewed as therapy progresses.
Online sessions are offered by video call, phone, live chat or text-based messaging to give flexibility. Video is useful for face-to-face conversation, phone works when bandwidth is limited, live chat can be a quicker check-in, and text messaging supports ongoing reflection between sessions. These options make it easier to fit counselling around work, travel or busy family life.
| Session length | Typically 50 minutes |
|---|---|
| Client ages | Adults, 18 and over |
| Fees | Subscription via BetterHelp, cancel anytime |
| Insurance | Not billed directly |
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Areas of focus
What this therapist works with
Most often
- Stress, Anxiety
- LGBT
- Relationship issues
Also listed
- Attachment issues
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Career difficulties
- Communication problems
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Guilt and shame
- Intimacy-related issues
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Multicultural concerns
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Self esteem
- Sex addiction
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Trauma and abuse
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 3 years
- Registered with
- NCPS
- Languages
- English
